The Best Possible Self Exercise
The Best Possible Self Exercise: The One Practice That Can Rewire Your Mind for Optimism (and Results)
Let’s get real for a second.
If you’ve ever been stuck in a loop of negative thinking—overanalyzing missed deals, doubting your leadership skills, comparing your numbers to everyone else’s—then what I’m about to share with you might be the mindset shift you didn’t know you needed.
It's called the Best Possible Self (BPS) Exercise.
And no—it’s not some fluffy journal prompt from a random Pinterest board.
It’s a powerful, research-backed exercise that literally trains your brain to think differently, optimistically, and more strategically.
Let’s unpack it.
What Is the Best Possible Self Exercise?
The Best Possible Self exercise is a positive psychology tool designed to boost optimism, increase motivation, and improve your emotional well-being.
Here’s how it works:
You take a few minutes (10–20 is ideal), grab a pen or open a blank doc, and imagine the best possible version of yourself in the future.
That version of you who’s absolutely crushing it in business, thriving in your relationships, and waking up excited for the day ahead.
Then…
You write about it in vivid detail.
What are you doing every day?
What goals have you already achieved?
How do you lead?
How do people talk about you?
What kind of lifestyle are you living?
The idea isn’t to fantasize. It’s to build a vision that feels tangible—because when your brain can see it, your body starts acting like it’s already on the path.
Why Does It Work? (Let’s Get Nerdy for a Second)
This isn’t just feel-good fluff.
Research from King (2001) and subsequent studies from the field of positive psychology show that doing this exercise regularly can:
Increase optimism and positive affect
Improve resilience during stressful times
Boost goal achievement
Strengthen future-oriented thinking
(Source: Journal of Personality and Social Psychology, King, 2001)
In other words, you’re literally training your brain to see possibility instead of panic.
That’s huge for real estate professionals—because let’s be honest, we’re in one of the most emotionally volatile industries out there. If your mindset isn’t strong, your results won’t be either.
How to Do It (Without Overthinking It)
You don’t need to light candles or wait for a full moon. You just need 10-15 minutes of undistracted space.
Here’s how to structure it:
Step 1: Picture Your Future
Fast forward 3–5 years. Imagine your life if everything went as well as it possibly could.
Not perfect. But optimized.
Your real estate business is humming.
Your mornings are peaceful.
You’re leading with clarity, purpose, and profit.
Step 2: Write in the Present Tense
Describe your Best Possible Self like it's happening now.
"I wake up early with energy and gratitude. My team is aligned. I lead with purpose. I’m closing deals consistently and mentoring the next generation of leaders."
Step 3: Get Specific
Generic goals won’t move the needle. Detail is where the magic happens.
What’s your income?
How do your days feel?
Who are you surrounded by?
What kind of clients are you working with?
Step 4: Reflect Regularly
Come back to this once a week. Add more layers. Let it evolve.
This is your north star—not a one-and-done.
For Real Estate Pros: Why This Exercise Is a Power Play
In our industry, we tend to focus a LOT on the external:
Leads
Listings
Market shifts
Scripts
Social media algorithms
But the truth is, your business will never grow beyond your vision of yourself.
If you’re operating from fear, comparison, or burnout—you’ll stay stuck in short-term thinking and reaction mode.
The Best Possible Self Exercise flips that.
It puts you back in control of your vision, your strategy, and your energy.
And in a noisy industry like ours, clarity is your competitive advantage.
Bonus Tip: Turn It Into a Morning Ritual
Spend 5 minutes each morning reviewing your Best Possible Self script.
You’ll start noticing how differently you show up:
You speak with more confidence.
You make bolder decisions.
You stop tolerating mediocre habits.
You start attracting higher-level opportunities.
All because your brain starts believing what you’ve told it is possible.
Final Word: You’re Not Far Off—You Just Need to Zoom Out
Your Best Possible Self isn’t a pipe dream. It’s a version of you that already exists—it just hasn’t been fully activated yet.
And the longer you avoid creating that vision, the longer you stay stuck in survival mode.
So do yourself a favor:
Write the story of the person you’re becoming.
Because clarity precedes confidence. And confidence creates momentum.
Want Help Mapping Out Your Best Possible Business?
If you're ready to align your goals, business model, and mindset with the future you actually want—let’s talk.
Book a free coaching call and we’ll work through your Best Possible Self, then reverse engineer the systems, team, and strategy to get there.
